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At the end of the day, acting is all about telling lies. We are professional imposters and the audience accept that. We've made this deal that we tell you a tale and a pack of lies, but there will be a truth in it. You may enjoy it, or it will disturb you. Pete Postlethwaite. And there is good news, these negative thoughts you were programmed to believe are LIES. “How could we possibly be responsible for telling ourselves these horrible lies?” you might ask. Synonyms for telling lies include fabricating, fibbing, lying, prevaricating, spinning a yarn, telling stories, telling untruths, having on, perjuring yourself and dissimulating. Find more similar words at wordhippo.com! If telling lies has made your life difficult, perhaps it is time to start telling the truth. Once you start telling the truth, you will find your life starts to become less complicated. Instead of worrying about a certain person discovering the lie you told, you’ll be able to focus on getting on with your life. Free thesaurus definition of to tell lies and deceive people from the Macmillan English Dictionary - a free English dictionary online with thesaurus and with pronunciation from Macmillan Education.

“Deceit is the linchpin of conscienceless behavior.” ~Martha Stout, The Sociopath Next Door
In the beginning of my recovery, very soon after I discovered that the man I thought I knew had never existed, I held on to the one solid piece of truth that I had finally figured out: he was a LIAR. I held on tightly to that fact and started to research “pathological lying” on the internet. Unfortunately, I came up with nothing helpful. It was only when I painstakingly found my way to sociopathy/psychopathy that I uncovered accurate answers to my many questions! I eventually realized that pathological lying and psychopathy are inextricably linked.
Unfortunately, the above truth is obscured by a popular, and dangerous, assumption that exists within our society; it is even supported by research. That assumption is: everyone lies. Since everyone does it, since lying is apparently so universal and typical, it follows that it must not be that bad. Right? Wrong. Yes, almost all of us have told white lies to spare others’ feelings or with the intention of protecting others. And normal people lie to hide the shame they feel about wrongdoings or because they fear the consequences of their mistakes. But, there are other people who lie habitually, with the intent to deceive and manipulate others for their own personal gain, and they do not feel bad about doing it. In fact, they revel in it. These people are pathological liars, and they are psychopaths.
After much research, I have concluded that all pathological and compulsive liars have personality disorders, and those disorders can be placed on a psychopathic spectrum. Pathological lying is the opposite of normal. I will repeat that: pathological lying is the opposite of normal! It is irrelevant that researchers have discovered evidence that everyone lies in one way or another. Not only are most lies damaging, psychopathic lies are beyond the scope of what most people can even imagine when they think about lying. When someone lies habitually, that behavior pattern is always connected to other extremely disturbing traits and behaviors.
Lying is like breathing for psychopaths, and they use it as a manipulation tool in the following ways:
Psychopaths lie in order to dominate others
Because relationships are games to them, and because they view other people as objects and feel completely justified in exploiting them, psychopaths know that deception creates an uneven playing field. Lying is integral to impression management and mirroring; the lies enable psychopaths to present false images of themselves to potential targets. Those targets lose the ability to make safe and appropriate decisions. They enter into the relationships, unaware of the danger in store for them. Then, once the targets are hooked, psychopaths continue to use lies, along with a sprinkling of truth, in a multitude of ways, to ensure that their targets keep “playing.” They lie to cover up cheating, alcoholism, drug use, and sometimes various illegal activities. They lie through evasion and by withholding information. They lie as a form of gaslighting, in order to increase their control over their targets by making them constantly question themselves. They often repeatedly tell the ultimate lie, that they “love” their targets. And, they lie just for the fun of it.
Psychopaths actually feel a form of pleasure when they lie
Unlike lies told out of fear or to hide shame, psychopathic lies are often told because they bring a shallow form of pleasure to the liar. This is called “Duper’s Delight.” This explains why psychopaths sometimes lie when it is completely unnecessary or when the truth would be more advantageous. Psychopaths also include a variety of details in their lies, not only because it makes their lies sound more credible, but also because they enjoy constructing a false reality and making others believe it. It feeds their need for power and provides them with sick entertainment.
Psychopaths lie effortlessly and are very convincing
Psychopaths experience pleasure from lying because they lack the normal range of human emotions. They are empty and bored, they lack empathy for others, and they do not feel shame or remorse. This emptiness also enables them to lie with minimal effort. They can look other people straight in the eye, without flinching, and lie quickly and guiltlessly, even when confronted with probing questions and evidence of previous deception. It is also easy for them to deny the lies, make up excuses, and project their own behavior on to others, which is, of course, a lie in itself. Although some psychopaths do not bother with apologies, others say they’re sorry on a regular basis, and because they say this without feeling any shame, they can come across as sincere.
Psychopaths lie to make others feel sorry for them
All psychopaths know exactly how to elicit sympathy from their targets. They are exploiters, and so they take advantage of the natural desire most people have to help and nurture their fellow human beings. They use deception (and sometimes a smidgen of truth) to create a plethora of fabricated ailments and problems. Common pity plays include fake illnesses and injuries, along with “crazy” exes, car accidents, and theft, to name just a few. Psychopaths generate as many pretend sob stories as needed in order to draw others into their hidden games, again and again and again. The ability they have to lie pathologically, easily, and confidently makes it possible for them to convince others that such an implausible number of tragedies is plausible, which unfortunately opens the door to a variety of manipulation and exploitation opportunities.
Martha Stout’s telling quote from above, “Deceit is the linchpin of conscienceless behavior,” can be translated as: lying is central to the psychopathic personality. It therefore cannot be separated from other psychopathic behavior; it is integrated completely into how psychopaths think and into everything they do. Habitual, pathological lying is the opposite of normal, and it is always a telltale sign of a psychopathic personality disorder.
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Many, if not most of us, have been through some traumatic event in our lives. When you think back to your childhood you may see flashes of violence, abuse, neglect, or addiction. This might have been your “normal.” This might still be your “normal.” When we live through trauma something happens to us, without our knowledge. Lies are quietly spoken to our psyches. So what are these lies and who whispers them to those of us who have suffered trauma?

First, let’s define trauma. Merriam-Webster defines trauma as:

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a very difficult or unpleasant experience that causes someone to have mental or emotional problems usually for a long time.

But why does “a very difficult or unpleasant experience cause someone to have mental or emotional problems”? Sounds like a silly question, right? One could answer; because it was scary, anxiety provoking, hurtful, debilitating, horrific, physically painful, and the list goes on. But this still does not answer the why of my question. Let’s break it down even further. What is the connection between experiencing trauma and internalizing it, resulting in, what Merriam-Webster calls, “mental or emotional problems”?

When a person experiences a traumatic event such as rape, abuse, neglect, or domestic violence, there is a strong chance, especially if these things are experienced as a child, that negative messages will worm their way into our subconscious. What are these messages and who is sending them? Sometimes it is people around us, sometimes, believe or not, we ourselves are generating these thoughts. If you have ever experienced trauma, I invite you to answer this question. Have you caught yourself thinking things like; “I’m not lovable”, “I’m stupid”, “it was my fault this happened to me”, “I must deserve this”, “I don’t matter”, “there must be something wrong with me”? If you have, I assure you, you are not alone. And there is good news, these negative thoughts you were programmed to believe are LIES.

“How could we possibly be responsible for telling ourselves these horrible lies?” you might ask. Or, you might be thinking, “But these things are true, my relationships prove it.” I would challenge you by exploring the definition of confirmation bias. In my own words, confirmation bias is defined as, subconsciously seeking out situations, people/relationships and interactions that confirm what we believe to be true. For example, if we believe we are worthless, we might subconsciously surround ourselves with people who, due to their own issues, are not trustworthy. Therefore, if this person breaks our trust, it is confirmed in our mind that the lie is indeed true-we indeed are worthless. Can you imagine the toll this takes on us after years of practice?

It may be very difficult to uncover these hidden messages you have been telling yourself. Sometimes they become so ingrained in us, even neurobiologically (which is beyond the scope of this article), that we actually believe we were born this way. Or worse yet, we are not aware there is a problem and don’t question these messages at all. When the latter happens, it is our behaviors and/or emotions that send signals of distress. This might be manifested in the inability to have healthy relationships, or we might always seem to find ourselves in unsafe situations, or maybe we are highly anxious or sad, the list goes on and on. The lies whispered to us during past traumatic events could very well be the culprit.

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The good news is, there is hope for healing. Through a strong therapeutic alliance these lies can be dispelled and the cycle of negative self-talk can be broken. Many therapeutic techniques and coping mechanisms exist, that are effective in dealing with the wake trauma leaves behind. If you suspect you are struggling with negative self-talk, I would suggest seeking out a therapist who subscribes to some form of cognitive behavioraltherapy (CBT), as well one who utilizes a mindfulness based approach. It has been my experience, that combining the two, is an exceptionally effective way to break the cycle of negative thinking.

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Utilizing CBT techniques such as Socratic questioning, constructing realistic self-affirmations, counterstatements and/or reframing, are efficacious in disputing the lies we’ve believed about ourselves. Mindfulness is a wonderful way to train the mind to be psychologically flexible and roll with the punches of life. Among many other benefits, practicing mindfulness also creates the space needed to slow down the automatic cycle of self-defeating thoughts, thus exposing these cognitive distortions. Learning mindfulness and CBT techniques will empower you to untangle your intermeshed thoughts, feelings, and behaviors and create new, healthy habits. It takes time and practice but it is well worth the effort!

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